Are you having a Realize Moment?
Have you ever had a REALIZE moment? Like: When you realize that growing older could actually mean growing deeper or braver or hipper or happier? When you realize you can actually break free of whatever’s been holding you back? When you realize that what you love to do can be the work you do, that you in fact can follow your bliss?
A collision of time

In Blood Meridian (1985) Cormac McCarthy writes of the Sonoran desert,

“…here was nothing more luminous than another and nothing more enshadowed and in the optical democracy of such landscapes all preference is made whimsical and a man and a rock become endowed with unguessed kinships.”

What the Amsterdammers know

In the short week I spent in Amsterdam last autumn, I approached four Amsterdammers and asked them one simple question...  watch them respond.

Lovely, open people all.  I wonder, would I get the same reception in L.A.?  Well, maybe if I spoke Dutch...



When your senses defy you

Susan’s hands hovered over the piano keys, she’d forgotten the notes. Just as quickly as they’d come into her head, filling her fingers with the flurry of where to go, they were gone. Such an odd feeling. The piano had always provided such solace with its safety in measure and surety of time.

Part 1: Our Genomes, Ourselves, Our Ancestors

Im an Addict

A Valentine's Day tradition

Salvatore Giacondo felt the hole crater inside him. He tried to ignore it as he slipped a finger through the dainty teacup handle. A tradition. To sip Earl Grey from Maisie’s Belleek on Valentine’s day. Her birthday.

A Parody

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Tina Modotti & Charis Wilson

Edward Weston was a complex man. Often portrayed as a philanderer, a consummate Don Juan with a camera, he was much deeper and caring: a respectful son, a caring brother, a loving husband. A doting, proud, and engaging father, the real Edward Weston was a man whose philosophy of life, art, and love were inseparable. His world, often overly egocentric, was one built in passion, enthusiasm, and...

The story of a forgotten muse

I first learned about Charis Wilson when reading her obituary in “The Economist.” I was struck by the emotional tone of the article. It was written as though the author had lost a lover. Like many millions of people, I had encountered the beautiful form of Charis in the iconic nude photographs Edward Weston made in the 1930s. What I did not realize is that many others loved her...

The oldest scar on my body is a thin white line on the under right side of my lower lip that marks where I jumped into the pool at the age of five and hit my face on the deck as I completed a perfect 180. I don’t recall if there was blood in the water, but I remember a beautiful woman in the changing room lamenting that I would be scarred for life. She was right.

If these ideas and playlist don't get you in the mood, check into assisted living!


A list of forget-me-nots as unique as she is

So "if you really love someone, set them free"… from the tiresome routines of Valentine’s day! 
Make this one memorable. Whether it is a scent to remember or a piece of art for her boudoir or office, she is sure to understand the depth of your thoughtfulness. If these pieces don't tickle your fancy, head on over to our...

From works of art to the art of fashion, we bring you the best gifts for your man

So "if you really love someone, set them free"… from the tiresome routines of Valentine’s day! Make this one memorable.  Give him something he can put on his wall - in his man cave or office or woodshed. When he looks at it he will always be reminded of your love.

Exploring the science behind 'Grain Brain'

I wanted to believe Dr. Perlmutter; I really did.

My kitchen is the scene of ongoing dietary clashes between my cardiologist spouse and my 26-year-old paleo-enthusiast son. Our shelves are stocked with a schizophrenic mix of whey protein powder, low-fat granola, coconut oil, Ghee, and Greek yogurt.  Both of these guys can be quite persuasive. What’s a woman...

The hidden secret to the complexity that is the human brain

What if there was a key, a key that could unlock the memories hidden behind years of disease and medication-induced apathy. A few weeks back my wife Pamela and I stumbled upon a documentary that explores just that. And by stumble, I mean literally it was the only movie in our Netflix cue that looked remotely exciting, if not a bit informative.

We were wrong.

A photographer who makes you stop and think

I chose Santiago Vanegas as the first Saatchi artist to feature on Realize because, though I often find contemporary photography to be facile or hackneyed, his work forces me to stop and look, and look again.  Not only is his subject matter arresting, but his technique is stunning.  

An intimate video discussion with his friend and biographer, Barry Miles
Miles reveals a very different Burroughs than one would expect. What is commonly known about Burroughs is his wild, discursive writing style and the sensational homicide of his wife; what Miles brings to light is that while this event became a dark and visceral shadow for Burroughs, it also became an animating force, one which fueled his later writing career.
When childhood memories and imagination collide
The wonders of growing up never really leave us. Ricketts recalls her wondrous childhood on the shores of Lake Michigan.
Some of the best memories involve all 5 senses
Terao explores the sites, sounds, smells and flavors of childhood memories shaped by California's wine country.
Could the idea of getting older just be in our heads?

Of course I like it when someone tells me I’m not old.  But I always insist I am old, and that they are ageists, unwitting captives of Western culture’s misconception of the meaning of old age.  “You believe that old means being decrepit, over the hill, used up, finished?" I say. " Sorry, that’s just not the case, you can be old and good.”  Or, to say it another...

Risking Life and Limb, our Fearless Editrix rides and films the streets of Amsterdam.
Short and sweet here, since my video says it all; the best way to catch the vibe of Amsterdam is on TWO WHEELS!
And how sex and age play into the process

Like everyone on the planet over the age of 50, with the possible exception of the Unabomber, I’ve had more than a few romantic relationships. I was married for 11 years, engaged for one, partnered with a lovely woman for five, and had a few shorter dalliances along the way. is changing the game

As a painter and photographer I've been told that I have a great eye. If true, I probably inherited it from my dad, who was a wonderful photographer, and my mum, who was a painter and owner of one of America’s first galleries of American crafts. If you like the look of Realize, (the aesthetic, and many of the photographs and...

How a pair of wanderers ditched Google Maps and lived to tell about it

“So how much do you think my car weighs?” is all I could ask as we cautiously crossed a...

One man's quest to keep wine clubs alive
When it comes to enjoying one of our favorite libations, Greg Klein prefers to keep tech out of the tasting experience.
When wine meets tech, the possibilities are endless
From label-to-door deliveries to a platform that treats your palate like a dating profile, the latest entrepreneurial renaissance is adding a little tech to those tannins.
Would Olive Osculate?
From oops to oblivion, we explore some of our favorite "O" words. Join us for another edition of REALIZE Magazine's 101 Coolest Words.
A jazz, gospel and soul tour de force.
If you haven't checked out the latest from Gregory Porter, you are in for a treat. His third album, "Liquid Spirit," is a heady confluence of gospel, soul and jazz.
Escape to Neverland (for grownups)
When it comes to escaping the "real world," these exotic adventures will have you wishing you could never grow up. From California to Florida, these glamorous camping (or glamping) destinations will serve as the perfect backdrop for your next fall or winter getaway.
Exploring the latest “get connected” trend

You’ve seen that little white bird in the little blue box everywhere, right? So do you click it? Maybe not, but we think you should. Just download the app or add it to your toolbar and join another level of conversation in our ever-connected world.

 Here are just 10 Tweet-able reasons to grab your @handle:

How painter Joni Wehrli conquers acrophobia swinging high in the air

When I learned a good friend of a good friend of mine, who happens to be well over 50, had been flying on a trapeze, weekly, over the past decade, I knew I had to witness it and then show the good readers of Realize that things you never thought possible at our age can be done with agility and grace.  Joni Wehrli gives us a voyeuristic thrill and talks about how the...

50 years on, a first kiss fumble morphs into storytelling touchdown.

A lone speaker walks up to a mike.  A spotlight glaring in her eyes, she faces the audience and opens her mouth. She may have note cards in her hands, or even a script of sorts, or she may have nothing at all.  Then, out comes a story.  Her story, personal, warts-and-all.  Shared with a roomful of strangers.

Vintage + Modern Mash-up
How to mix up vintage and modern, for hip women over 50. Tired of not seeing models your age in fashion shoots? Realize took matters into our own hands. We don’t have the keys to the showrooms that Vogue does, so we just rifled through our own closets and unleashed our restless imaginations.
Recognized as a top innovator in the field of aging, Bill Thomas is a live wire!
BOOMERS ~ You got what it takes to be an Elder? Watch this video interview and find out. Dr. Bill Thomas, 'one of WSJ's top 12 innovators' changing the future of retirement talks with Realize Magazine's editor Ellary Eddy.
Charles Mingus wrote Goodbye Porkpie Hat as a tribute to Lester Young, sax player and 'hep cat'


Wherein the Editor Proposes a Three-Day Holiday of Love

Well, I’m all in favor of Romance, but here’s the drag about Valentine’s day - it’s too exclusive, and not in the cool way of some trendy Parisian boite, but in the cliquish way of high-schoolers, excluding all the lovely people out there who, bursting with love, just don’t have an outlet.  It’s cruel. Inhumane.  And it also trivializes love in...